Thursday, May 7, 2009

Personal Post and a Prettie Share

So, I let some people know my "news" tonight at the My Favorite Things release party, so I figured it was time to share it here. Recently, I was away from my blog, and stamping for about two weeks. I am NEVER absent, and in fact used to post everyday. I am still working on getting back to that, but I feel the need to explain my absence....don't ask why, I have no clue. Honestly, I think it is therapeutic for me to talk about it out loud, in a sense. So, on March 13th, FRIDAY March 13th, my (now ex) husband decided that he no longer wished to be married. I was SHOCKED to say the least, and completely overwhelmed. Within two days, with the help of my AMAZING family, I had packed up and moved every thing that I could possibly want out of the house(except for the hand mixer-got no CLUE why I didn't grab that-oh ya, I hate to cook). Within a week, we were both in the lawyers office, and by the first week, yes I said FIRST week of April, we were divorced. INSANE RIGHT?? Before you all start to worry about me and feel bad, which you may still, I am doing REALLY good. I am stamping, which is what I love, and my family has stepped up and taken care of me. I am now living with my Dad(and sister part time), which is a tad demeaning, but very cost effective, and still carrying on life as usual. Eventually, I will have to get a job where I actually get paid(I was watching Jared for free...I still watch him, but I do get paid a little now), but for now, my situation is good and my spirits are high. In fact, I can't believe how depressed I had let myself get, until it was over. I had known for awhile that things were not the way they should be, but I guess I had turned a blind eye because him making the decision completely caught me off guard. Apparently, I took vows, he just "repeated after me", if you know what I mean!! Don't get me wrong, I am still terrified of the unknown. I have always wanted kids, and I am afraid that with my infertility issues, I won't ever be able to have my own. I am terrified that I will end up alone and broke...but for now, I am taking things one day at a time. This too shall pass, and I will be better for it!! With all that said, I want to publicly thank all the FABULOUS Design Teams that I work for for being so sweet, supportive, and understanding. To all my friends that have sent me RAK's, countless PM's and emails, and gifts galore, I want you to know that each and every one of you mean more to me than you will ever know. I look at your cards everyday and I wonder how I ever got so lucky to meet so many beautiful, kind and caring people. You really, truly mean the world to me and I don't know how I would have made it through without yours and my families support!!
Okay, are you still here and thoroughly depressed?? SORRY if you are, but I do have a VERY PRETTIE card for you!! It was made with the June Stamp of the Month, Give Thanks. I actually made this card as part of one of the Prettie Pajama Party Challenges, and Danielle's sketch from this past Thursday. I started By stamping my GORGEOUS Sophia...yes she is my favorite, feel free to laugh..I know I say that about all of them, with Memento Tuxedo Black ink on an MFT Perfect Panel. I then stamped the girl on a piece of Hawaiian Papaya DSP. The dress was paper pieced and the rest of the girl was colored in with my Copics. I then layered her with Tangerine Tango, Chocolate Chip and Kraft cardstock. The Chocolate DSP is from the same Hawaiian Papaya pack. The Tangerine Tango layer was run through my Cuttlebug with the Swiss Dots folder. I stamped my sentiment with the same ink and paper, and then punched it out with my SU oval punches. The ribbon is from MFT, part of the new Chocolate Kiss bundle, and my spiral clip is from Creative Express. I used two Corduroy buttons from SU with a tiny piece of Tangerine Tango threaded through them. Isn't she a CUTIE PIE!! You have until May 31st at midnight to get signed up to have her mailed to you before she is released to the public, how cool is that??!!
Well, that is it for me now..thanks for stopping by and for listening, if you actually read my post. Have a great day!!

50 comments:

  1. Well Jessie I have been following your blog for a while now and yes I did wonder why you had not been there for a while. Having just posted your reason why and more power to you for being able to articulate in such a way, I can completely understand why you have been absent. Now can I say that this too shall pass, all the hurt the anger and frustration etc that goes along with suddenly finding yourself divorced. I too had trouble having babies and I miscarried 10 babies before I had my two daughters who are 20 and 25 now. So miracles do happen trust me. I also ditched my first husband as he was an alcoholic and a very violent man. 21 years down the track I am remarried to the most caring man and my youngest daughter is with him. Geez I am rambling just wanted you to know Jessie that I will be thinking of you as you re-build your life and hopefully it will include a hell of a lot of stamping*smiles*
    Regards
    Michelle
    Bohemian Gypsy

    ReplyDelete
  2. Hey Jess...glad you were able to share! Keep hanging on! You're incredible! :)

    ReplyDelete
  3. Jessie! I am soooo sorry. SAME thing just happend to my BFF, who is 38, married only 3 years, no kids due to infertility stuff. What is with these men! Glad you are free of him and have plenty of time to find the guy that deserves you! Keep on stampin sistah!

    ReplyDelete
  4. Beautiful card Jessie!! Sounds like you are "turning a corner" and definitely will come out stronger and better!! Hugs & prayers Jess!! :)

    ReplyDelete
  5. {{{Jessie}}}} You know I've been thinking of you and I'm happy to see you are well on the road to recovery. You are very strong and it's great to have a supportive family like yours. You are destined for GREAT things!!!

    Sophia is really pretty in these colours!!

    ReplyDelete
  6. Great card Jessie! I'm so sorry that you have to go through this right now, but in time I would say it's for the best. Keep on being YOU, and you'll find that special someone. :)

    ReplyDelete
  7. Fabulous card...glad it's therapy for you...I really can't imagine what you've been through and SO glad you're doing so very well. Prayers.

    ReplyDelete
  8. Jessie, I'm so glad to hear that you are doing well considering what you have been through the last couple of months. I can't imagine what you must be feeling, but I do know that you are a very strong woman and God will get you through this diffucult time. What an amazing family you have to help you through this...what a blessing!

    So glad to see you stamping again...your cards are always stunning and I always look forward to see your post and see what you will have for us each day! Just know that I am thinking about you and will keep you in my prayers!

    Hugs!
    Jenn Diaz

    ReplyDelete
  9. ADORABLE card, Jessie. . .and I'm so glad to hear you're doing well! You're still in my thoughts and prayers! BIG HUGS!

    ReplyDelete
  10. You sound like a very strong person and like you are handling this so well. Relationships aren't easy. You will come out on top and never have to look back.

    I LOVE your cards. I just found your page and am so impressed. I especially like the colors and layout of this card. Your coloring and paper piecing is great.

    Keep your chin up!

    ReplyDelete
  11. You ARE STRONG, Jessie! What a blessing to have such a supportive family! You have so many people in the community who love you and care about you, me included! Keep you head high and you will come out better in the end!! Big Hugs, girl!!

    ReplyDelete
  12. Your card is beautiful Jessie and I am glad your stamping is giving you the outlet you need right now!! You are a strong woman and will come out of this fine!!! I too am divorced and found my soulmate in my current husband (together 18 years and going strong) so I can honestly say that it DOES get better!!! Keep your family close and lean on them when you need to!!! We all love ya Jess - hang in there, my friend!! *STAMPIN HUGS* Alex

    ReplyDelete
  13. Hi ya sweetie. You've been in my thoughts and I know in my heart you will get through this and come out stronger and braver than how you're feeling now.

    You will never be alone by the way, you will always have all of us who care for you in your life. We're always thinking and hoping for the very best for you. Your talented and a beautiful soul and I consider myself quite lucky to have you in my life! Big Hugs!!!

    ReplyDelete
  14. Jessie, again I am SO sorry this happened to you. Life has a funny way of working itself out though! :)

    You are strong and will be JUST FINE> :)

    HUGS and you know if you ever need anything, I am here.

    ReplyDelete
  15. I am so sorry! Your statement and thought are extraordinary! You are amazing! Get your head back in to stamping and just as you said you took your vows seriously; he doesn't deserve you!

    ReplyDelete
  16. Hi Jessie -- I have no words of wisdom, but wanted to send you some {{{{HUGS}}}}. I love your stamping and reading your blog. I'm sure with all your family support and virtual support, you'll come out of this happier than you can imagine.

    Great card, btw! :)

    ReplyDelete
  17. Love your card! Your work is always fabulous!

    Hang in there...it gets better as time passes. I promise you if I can do it, anybody can! :-)

    ReplyDelete
  18. I am sorry to hear your news because it is like losing part of yourself when your partner leaves. Allow yourself time to grieve through the process and I am so proud of you for first sharing your journey - the first step to healing. Our lives are planned for us, and there are no mistakes. These giants in our life only make us stronger. I will think of you and pray for you as move forward

    ReplyDelete
  19. Jessie,

    Just wanted to say I know it takes a lot of courage to share your private life here. I can imagine this has been an extremely difficult time with so much change and uncertainty. You'll get through this! I know it must be so hard right now but I firmly believe when one door closes another opens. You'll get there! Hugs!

    ReplyDelete
  20. You never have to worry about being alone and broke. You have tons of people that care about you and you know that you will always have a place in my craft room should you need it ;)

    That card is gorgeous, I love the colors and your placement of embellishments is perfect! Like always... :)

    ReplyDelete
  21. jessie, i just wanted to pop over and tell you what a tough cookie you are!! everything happens for a reason and this will only make you stronger. I know my character got a little makeover about 12 years ago and i'm SO MUCH better for it!! it takes guts to go through something like that, especially in such quick order as you did it--it will all be ok, i'm living proof! hugs, sus

    ReplyDelete
  22. I found your blog at the end of last summer and have been checking it everyday since. I am sorry you had to go through this, but with your absence I figured it had to be something pretty serious. You have to kiss some frogs before you find your prince. And sometimes those frogs are actually toads. I am glad your family is so wonderful and supportive. We are all here for you too. I love all your creations. You have a real eye for color and design. Keep up the good work and know that we are here for you. Thanks for sharing.

    ReplyDelete
  23. Well you, my dear, are a true hero.
    Will send up a sweet prayer for you tonight. Love your cards.

    ReplyDelete
  24. Jessie - appreciate you trusting us with your pain - extra prayer for you tonight -

    I think your creative talent will serve you well

    Judy ~~

    ReplyDelete
  25. Thank you for sharing yourself with us, not only through the wonderful cards you make but in your current situation as well.

    My hunch was right when you first posted a few life change comments. Life is lived one day at a time and with your wonderful family and friends at your side, I know you will land on your feet and grow through this whole situation. (((hugs))) to you!!!!

    ReplyDelete
  26. Hey, it only gets better from here! 5 years ago when my ex and I split up, I moved in with my Mom at the age of 37 years old with my 7 year old daughter and lived there for 6 months, talk about no dates..."Hey, want to go back to my place but I live with my Mom and Step-dad but just ignore them", not cool! But honey, if I can get thru it, so can you and be thankful you didn't have kids (NOT YET) and go thru it! I am VERY HAPPILY remarried now and have a great life and all that crap just made me stronger, which you will too! So chin up and keep up the stamping as it is very theuraputic (that is when I actually started is when I moved out, needed something to do). And when you are ready to meet someone, drop me a line and I will fill you in on my experiences so you can get a laugh! LOTS OF HUGS AND LOVE GF! oh ya, cute card! lol

    ReplyDelete
  27. Jessie, there is life after the 1st husband. I am on marriage 2 and I have been married for 34 years and glad I lost that ball and chain around my neck. The weight off my shoulders was a good thing. Give yourself time and you too will feel more relief than you thought you could.
    THERE IS LIFE AFTER HUSBAND #1!!!!!

    Linda H
    Sacramento, CA

    ReplyDelete
  28. {{{{{{{{{{{Jess}}}}}}}}}}} I'm truly sorry you've been thru such an experience!! Please just know you are surrounded by FRIENDS....real, true friends that are here day and night!!!

    ReplyDelete
  29. Hi Jessie,
    Yes, I read your whole post right through, and I'm so very sad for all that you've been through. I can't begin to imagine what itmust feel like - but I will pray for you.
    Love and Hugs, Anne. dinkuminkum at yahoo dot co dot nz

    ReplyDelete
  30. Hi Jess
    so sorry for all you have been through.. but as the others said you have great support and you will get through this.. the man doesnt deserve you ..with being so young and so pretty you will meet someone else and who knows maybe have a family .. keeping you in my thoughts.. hugs Hanna

    ReplyDelete
  31. Wishing you all the best! It is wonderful that you have so much support from your family, not to mention all of us out here!!
    I enjoy reading your blog and checking out the eye candy - you are so creative and inspiring.

    ReplyDelete
  32. i know it hurts, i know you are at times scared, angry, sad, overwhelmed, but you are still YOU. never let someone strip YOU of who YOU are. i can't lecture or fill you with all the answers as to why this happened, but it did. and all things happen for a reason. and while you are standing knee deep in the "happening" it is hard to understand, but one day down the road you will, you really will.
    i know that we don't know each other, but i sincerely feel that this was a positive thing, for now you can start your life.
    God Bless You.


    ~ For last year's words belong to last year's language. And next year's words await another voice. And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot

    ReplyDelete
  33. Hi Jessie:

    You are a brave woman to tell all of us but I think it's a healthy step. I'm really proud of how well you are doing and we are all here cheering for you on both the good and difficult days ahead.

    You certainly haven't missed a beat in your artwork. The paper piecing of the dress on this card is absolutely stellar!

    Extra Big Hug, Mary

    ReplyDelete
  34. So sorry to hear all that you have been thru but glad to hear you are doing well and in good spirits, wish you well in finding a new life for yourself.
    Your card is so cute, like the paper piecing and colors!

    ReplyDelete
  35. Jess - I love reading your blog. I visit it as often as I can and I love your work. It is soo great. You really have some talent. I am very sorry to hear of your news. I can't imagine what that would be like. But I wish you all of the best luck in everything. Hang in there and know you have many fan's.

    ReplyDelete
  36. Oh, my, gosh. I am totally, totally shocked. Yet, I don't know why I'm shocked, when your like the third woman I know recently who have had this happen to. Men are such jerks. Jessica, you are amazing. Any man would be lucky to have you. I'll be keeping you in my prayers that you will get through the difficult days ahead and find a good job. But as many people have already stated, even though you are going through a difficult time, I promise you there will be better days ahead. You will more than likely find a wonderful new man to marry who will take his marriage vows seriously, and children can always be in your future too whether naturally or adoption. Don't lose heart! Stay strong! Doctors aren't always right. I've known so many people who have had infertility problems and went on to have beautiful, healthy babies. And when I was pregnant with my youngest, the doctors told me he would be born with down syndrome. Well guess what! That baby is now 17 and is a gifted musician, #13 in his high school class, and does NOT have down syndrome. God is good! Put your trust in HIm. He will never let you down.

    ReplyDelete
  37. Jessie'Stay strong' it looks like you are the winner! With an amazing family and your talent you can go any where you want!
    Happy to see you stamping again!
    Cindy

    ReplyDelete
  38. {{{Jessie}}} I've been praying for you, girl! You know WE ALL LOVE YOU and appreciate you for the beautiful, kind, caring person you are!!! This is one card is super-adorable, with all the right touches, just like every single card you make! I am SO WAY proud of you, girl! You are a strong, wonderful woman! Smooches! :)

    ReplyDelete
  39. Sending you hugs and warm thoughts. You sound like you have amazing and supportive family and friends!! Love visiting your blog and am very sorry that you are going through this....

    ReplyDelete
  40. I am glad that you have a strong support system around you. Your work is amazing and I have been following your blog and wondering where you have been. My son's wife did the same thing to him. Called him on the phone while he was training at FT. Benning, GA. He is back in Italy now and they will get divorced when he comes home in June. This was not meant to be-but he would not listen to his Mom. I love your new card and I hope I win this stamp!! A little selfish-but life has not been treating me well lately and I need a boost!
    Take care and God Bless you!

    ReplyDelete
  41. So glad to see you approaching this as a new beginning with your 'roots' as your support of your new growth......use your creative endeavors as your therapy and hug those you love.....

    ReplyDelete
  42. Hang in there Jessie! This too shall pass and like you've said you are better because now you can see things more clearly. We all love you, not just because you're an awesome stamper, but because you're an awesome gal! Sending hugs...

    ReplyDelete
  43. Hi Jessie,
    You are so brave to share your personal experience with us. I really admire you.
    I haven't visited you in a while, a lot of things going on in my life too. I am glad your spirit is UP!!
    I will be praying for you my friend.
    BTW your card is adorable!!!

    God bless
    Giovana

    ReplyDelete
  44. I usually don't leave comments, but I did want to let you know that I visit your blog daily or when I get a reminder through e-mail and I missed you when you were out and am so glad you are back now. I am sorry for all the pain and suffering you have had to go through. Just so glad that you are back stamping and sharing.

    ReplyDelete
  45. Jessi~ I have stalked you long enough that I feel I know you....you can come to my house and hang out... I dont cook either but DH does.... We could trade room and board for classes! LMAO!

    You are a STRONG Woman and will make it JUST FINE!!! You have the support of all of us behind you and all you need to do is give a holla!!!!

    BE STRONG SISTAH FRIEND!!!!

    KelliJo

    ReplyDelete
  46. So sorry about this, Jessie! Just remember when each chapter of our lives ends, another one begins. Knowing you, I'm sure you're gonna come out alright. You're a super person and I bleieve the future holds good things for you. Sounds like you're already heading in that direction. Big hugs to you!

    Your friend,
    Becky

    ReplyDelete
  47. Hi Jessie! With time, things will be ok. I am a 2 time divorcee (I'm 33). Not proud of it, but it's better than being miserable :) Here in NC we have to wait a whole YEAR before we can file for divorce-BOOOO! Sounds like your hobby and friends/family have gotten you through these rough times. I love your blog...your are very talented and a hoot :) Just keep yourself focused on you and what you need to do to take care of yourself and before long you will forget ALL about that Y-Chromosome creature we collectively call "Men" LOL

    ReplyDelete
  48. Big BIG hugs to ya girl. Hang in there. Things will definitely get better as time goes on.

    ReplyDelete
  49. I've just read this post and I am so sorry that you've had so much to deal with. I'm glad you had such good friends and family to support you through it all, but I can only imagine the shock it must have been. Thoughts are with you...

    ReplyDelete
  50. well it probably feels good to admit you're hurting and how you have come through for the better! it's all part of the healing process; you are a beautiful, caring, loving & giving person and will continue to shine in whatever you do. I'm so glad you have a supportive family and of course you have all of us too! Love you, Jessie! hang in there!

    ReplyDelete

Leave me some love!!